On this episode of My Sistas' Keeper, Abby and I discuss how to hopefully resist the spirit of despair when talking about race, specifically on social media. We share our honest, raw emotions about the Philando Castile verdict and the killing of Charleena Lyles. We also discuss Scripture about despair and respond to listener questions about to respond to race-related tragedies and police brutality:
How should Shalom Sistas talk to their children, students, etc., about these events?
What should a Shalom Sista do if her church is silent in the face of injustice?
How can white Shalom Sistas be allies right now?
Is there a way for Shalom Sistas to engage with their local police departments to talk about racial profiling, etc.?
How can Shalom Sistas leverage whatever platform they have (blog, community office, leadership position, ministry, relationships) to shed light on these tragedies and say what needs to be said?
What are you longing to hear spoken or named--what do you think God is longing to hear spoken or named from pulpits?
Trust talks: http://www.trusttalks.org/
The documentary 13th
View it here.
“But if you dismiss black complaints of mistreatment by police as being completely rooted in our modern context, then you’re missing the point completely. There has never been a period in our history where the law and order branch of the state has not operated against the freedoms, the liberties, the options, the choices that have been available to the black community, generally speaking. And to ignore that racial heritage, to ignore that historical context, means that you can’t have an informed debate about the current state of blacks and police relationship today, ‘cause this didn’t just appear out of nothing. This is the product of a centuries-long historical process. And to not reckon with that is to shut off solutions.” - Kevin Gannon on 13th
Reading about the history of black and brown people in America
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Today I sit down with my co-host Jerusalem to talk about FOMO, Benedictine Monastic traditions, learning to love the life you have, and husband who are weary of our BIG ideas. She just released her second book, “At Home in this Life: Finding Peace at the Crossroads of Unraveled Dreams and Beautiful Surprises” and it’s amazing. Take a listen and come on over to the Shalom Sista Facebook page to tell us which of the three Benedictine Vows resonate most with you as you seek shalom in your home!
“At Home in this Life is the story of how everything I thought would make me happy came undone, and how I then found a way to make myself at home in this beautiful, messy, amazingly tender, completely unbalanced life, by imperfectly practicing one spiritual discipline at a time—smack in the middle of raising kids, mending the sweaters and burning the bread. It’s the story of how I finally realized that the “problem” with my life was not my house, my job, or my marriage, my problem was me. Only a Conversion of life - a Transformation of spirit and heart - would help. So I jumped, with both feet, into an experiment where I tried to follow God’s leading instead of my plan, an experiment that resulted in a lot of fits and false starts, gut-level honesty and true change. Beautiful, messy, chaotic, daily… this is the story of how I learned to make myself at home in my life.”
1: Choose a Benedictine Vow To Work On
2: Create Spaces to Listen
3: Curate Your Life
The At Home in this Life Curated Collection - Handmade Items from Peacemaking Women Inspired by At Home in this Life by Jerusalem Jackson Greer
Watering the Ground Beneath Our Feet,
In episode 35 we're having the Shalom Book Club, where Cara and I discuss Anne Lamott’s latest book, Hallelujah Anyway. We talk about what we mean when we speak or dream of mercy, and we look at differences between Lamott’s definition of mercy and a biblical definition of mercy. Finally, we get REAL with our own stories of mercy, and offer four Shalom Steps to help you rediscover mercy, too. As per the usual, you can connect with Cara on her blog, Facebook, Twitter an
Join us in the Shalom Sista Facebook Hangout for Cara's turkey burger recipe.
Singing Hallelujah Anyway as my practice of Shalom,
On this episode of My Sistas' Keeper, Abby and I discuss how to hopefully resist the spirit of defensiveness when talking about race, specifically on social media. We consider some practical ways to emulate Jesus' posture toward others described in 1 Peter 2:23, "When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly."
We also discuss the terms backfire effect and confirmation bias, and engage listener comments and questions such as how to know when to enter into an online conversation, when to just keep scrolling, and how to encourage offline extensions of online dialogu
The nonprofit organization Abby works for, His Grace Foundation, which serves patients and families on the Bone Marrow Transplant Unit of Texas Children’s Hospital: www.hisgracefoundation.org
The Beautiful Creatures book series: http://thenovl.com/
The Backfire Effect as described in a comic strip: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/
The Turner House by Angela Flournoy: http://www.nationalbook.org/
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On today’s book club episode, Cara and Osheta talked about ONE by Deidra Riggs.
They discuss the history of women in the church and the current conflict over the last couple of weeks on Twitter, and they also share our histories of being a woman in the church. They also talk about whether to keep or discard the book, and invite you to join in reading Hallelujah Anyway by Anne Lamott.
*Join the Shalom Sistas Hangout on Facebook
*Go see Everything, Everything with a Sista!
*Explanation of complementarian vs. egalitarian - or choose a third way like Osheta (and, as this article suggests)
*CT Women article, “Who’s in Charge of the Christian Blogosphere?”
*Read Hallelujah Anyway by Anne Lamott with us in May!
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Happy Reading and Shalom Seeking,
Won’t You Be My Neighbor?
What Mr. Roger’s can teach us about peacemaking in our communities when we feel divided.
Today we’re going to use neighborliness to practice hopeful resistance in the face of division. Wanna know what that means? It’s a really great episode and I hope you take a listen:
Three Lessons of Neighborliness from Mr. Rogers
Welcoming - Assuming a posture of neighborliness
Learning - Going into community to learn about those in the community.
Land of Make Believe
Blackish, Fresh off the Boat, The Real O’Neals, Speechless
Customer Service Shalom
Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood Sharing Episode
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Won't You Be My Shalom-y Neighbor,
Osheta and Jerusalem
Join Abby Perry and me for our second episode of My Sista's Keeper: Shalom in the City's Monthly Conversation on Race and Unity. This month we're exploring the idea of hopefully resisting division.
When it comes to racial reconciliation conversations, what words seem to make us aware of division unlike any other? You got it, race/racism/racist. As challenging as those words are to discuss, we think it's worth it to really press in to what they mean in order to have a common, working definition as we go forward. So, on this episode, we're diving deep and getting all kinds of uncomfortable as we look at how race and racism operate in the world today. And we promise you, every word we say and question we ask - it's all in the name of peacemaking.
We'll be honest with you, this episode had us pretty sweaty! We share stories, ask questions, and speak truths that we are confident are necessary for bringing about true Shalom in racial reconciliation. It's a deep one, but we think it's a good, too.
We want to know what you thought about this episode and what this conversation has you thinking about: Come join us on Facebook at the Shalom Sistas’ Hangout and share your thoughts!
Join us for the Shalom Book Club this month as we read Deidra Riggs’ One: Unity in a Divided World. Invite a local friend to join you! Click here for a discounted copy of "One".
Christena Cleveland is a social psychologist, public theologian, author and professor. She is the first Associate Professor of the Practice of Reconciliation at Duke University’s Divinity School and the author of Disunity in Christ: Uncovering the Hidden Forces that Keep Us Apart.
Connect with Christena on her site:
christenacleveland.com (note Christena is spelled)
For my White Sistas:
Attend one event this month where people who do not look like you will be. So, maybe visit a black church, go to the library in a predominately black community, visit a black history museum.
For my Black Sistas:
Pick one white friend you have who has shown interest in this conversation and pray for her. Pray that God gives her courage, that he gives you compassion, and that he provides opportunities for you both to talk about your experiences with race.
Today on the show, I'm chatting with Katherine Willis Pershey, pastor, storyteller, raconteuse and one of my new favorite authors. Her book, "Very Married" is my favorite marriage resource... ever!
Today's episode is what happens with two marriage geeks sit down and chat! We talk about living wholeheartedly in our marriage, what happens when one of us get has a crush, what is our responsibility to seek justice for those on the margins who desire whole and healthy marriage, and how we're choosing to befriend the things our husbands do that we don't love as an act of hopeful resistance in our marriage.
It's a really great conversation and I hope you listen.
Links we mention in the episode:
Hot Bean Water
How to Find Katherine Online
Shalom and Untying Knots in my Marriage
Join Cara Meredith and I as we discuss "The Sun is Also a Star" by Nicola Yoon. With our theme of Hopeful Resistance in mind, we talk through some of the tough issues (young love, college admission, and deportation) that Daniel and Natasha face.
Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. I’m definitely not the kind of girl who meets a cute boy on a crowded New York City street and falls in love with him. Not when my family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.
Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Or the dreamer. But when I see her, I forget about all that. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.
The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?
In this episode Cara and I invite you to a fun night out,ask ourselves how we can tell better stories, have a brief debate on the correct pronunciation of Nicola's name (spoiler alert...we both think we're right)! Speaking of spoilers, this episode is full of spoilers so listen accordingly, Sistas! Also, we read an excerpt from the show, so there's one cussword, so heads up!
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Join Jerusalem Greer and me for Shalom in the Home, our monthly conversation on peacemaking at home and in our community. We talk about hospitality and the insecurities we have around gathering the people in our lives.
A Recipe for Maundy Thursday: Chicken and Dumplings
Ms. J’s Chicken and Dumplings
This recipe is my answer to the Matzo Ball Soup and the Baked or Roasted Chicken that are often a staple of a modified Seder Supper. Not being Jewish, but being Southern, Chicken and Dumplings seemed like the perfect alternative to these traditional Seder dishes. And as for the recipe title, well, that comes from Sweet Man’s nickname for me, in the southern tradition of Miss Ellie from the TV show Dallas.
This is a large recipe—enough for twelve adults. Note: You can use homemade or store-bought chicken stock, or a combination of both.
For the Broth
Bring 15 cups of chicken stock to a boil.
Add the following to the boiling liquid:
3 carrots, peeled, washed, and diced (optional)
3 celery stalks, washed and thinly sliced
1 medium yellow onion, diced
1 tablespoon of salt
4 pounds of boneless chicken breast (frozen or thawed)
Once the chicken breasts are fully cooked, pull them out, and set them aside to cool.
Reduce broth to simmer and leave simmering while you make the dumplings.
For the Dumplings
Mix together the following ingredients:
6 cups of flour
3 tablespoons of baking powder
3 teaspoons of salt
Next, cut in 1 cup of solid vegetable shortening (use either a pastry cutter, or 2 table knives, or your food processor).
Once the shortening has been cut in well (creating a crumbly texture), begin adding ice cold water, ½ cup at a time, into the mixture. I use about 2¼ cup of ice water (sometimes I use more, sometimes I use less, depending on the humidity in the air).
Your goal is to create a dough that is soft, smooth, and easy to roll out but is not leathery or mushy or grainy. Next, roll your dough out. These dumplings are Southern-style flat dumplings like we make in Arkansas, not the round fluffy “drop” dumplings that are common in the North.
Sista’ Tip: My good friend and baking mentor Lynn taught me this great kitchen tip: When rolling out dough, spread out a smooth kitchen towel on your counter (I prefer the flour sack variety) and cover it with a good dusting of flour. This will be your rolling surface, and after you are done, you can simply fold the towel up and take it outside to shake off the excess.
Roll out the dough, using a slightly floured rolling pin, to between ⅛ and ¼-inch thickness.
Next, using a knife or pizza cutter, cut the dough into strips about 1 inch wide by 3 inches long.
Finally, bring your stock back to a rolling boil, and tear the cooked chicken breast into bite-size pieces, adding it back to the liquid. Once that is done, begin adding the strips of dumpling dough into the stock. Once all the strips have been added, give the pot a good stir, and cover. Reduce the heat to a simmer. Check every few minutes, stirring gently, until the dumplings are tender and cooked through, about 15–20 minutes.
A Prayer for Maundy Thursday: An old mennonite song makes a wonderful prayer for Maundy Thursday - Sing the Journey
A Printable for Maundy Thursday - Based on the traditional Seder Supper tradition of having four glasses of wine throughout the meal, each representing the four expressions of deliverance promised by God Exodus 6:6-7: "I will bring out," "I will deliver," "I will redeem," and "I will take.” Jerusalem has design a printable that you can give to each dinner guest, or print and deliver to neighbors with a jar of jam or bottle of wine. Frame with a dollar store clipboard or inexpensive frame or matte.
To download and print as many copies as you want, click HERE.
A Quote for Maundy Thursday: (based on Saltproject.org How to Respect Other Religions)
“How can we begin to show hospitality? Eat together. Pray together. Hold each other’s babies.”
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Join Abby Perry and me for our first episode of My Sista's Keeper: Shalom in the City's Monthly Conversation on Race and Unity. We talk about how each of us came to care deeply about issues of race, justice, and reconciliation, and what it is to approach these often awkward, difficult conversations with a spirit Hopeful Resistance.
The My Sista's Keeper episodes exist to help YOU begin to bring about Shalom in your own community by modeling a conversation between a black woman and a white woman talking about race. In this first episode, we make promises to each other that will guide our discussions, ask probing questions, and press deep into some uncomfortable places to see if there's some unity to be found (spoiler: there is).
We also may break out in hives, or at least a sweat, a few times. But it's that good sweat, ya know? Like when you're exercising and it's hard and it hurts but you know that means it's working. We hope you'll benefit from listening to a bit of heavy lifting (and plenty of laughter, too).
Want more Shalom in your life? Follow Shalom in the City on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest @shalominthecity. Come join us on Facebook at the Shalom Sistas’ Hangout. You can find me, Osheta Moore on Twitter @osheta, Instagram @oshetam and Pinterest. Abby is on Facebook @AbbyJoyAndersonPerry, on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest @abbyjperry and online at joywovendeep.com.
March: Hopeful Resistance
April: Resisting Division (within Hopeful Resistance)
May: Resisting Defensiveness (within Hopeful Resistance)
June: Despair (within Hopeful Resistance)
Hapelujah, Indeed written by our very own Cara
What are you saying "No" and "Yes" this year that you're hoping will bring you Shalom. Come over and share them in the Hangout:
Shalom and Books,
Osheta and Cara